As a young woman in my mid twenties, I too wonder many of the same questions as Carrie Bradshaw. Can I take Carrie’s experiences through out the show and apply her lessons learned to my own love life?
Is Sex and the City a source of good advice for us women looking for love?
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-with-out-each-other love” said Carrie Bradshaw.
Well so am I, and as a faithful fan of Sex and the City, I often find myself wondering the same questions as Carrie.
Sex and The City is a television show that centers around Carrie Bradshaw, who writes a column for a newspaper in New York. Her and her three best girl friends help each other through their ups and downs in their love lives. Although the men in their lives come and go, some longer than others, the four of them stick together.
In Carrie’s column, she writes about love. The love lives of her and her friends help to fuel the fire within her column. The events that occur within their lives stimulate her questions she poses within her column. Some of the questions she writes about are:
- “Do you know what the odds of catching a fly ball are? I didn’t. I couldn’t help wondering if they were any higher … than finding a relationship that would last.” [Episode one, “Take Me Out to the Ballgame”]
- “I couldn’t help but wonder: Inside every confident, driven, single woman, is there a delicate, fragile princess just waiting to be saved? Was Charlotte right? Do women just wanna be rescued?” [Episode one, “Where There’s Smoke … “]
- “I couldn’t help but wonder: Can you make a mistake and miss your fate?” [Episode eighteen, “I Heart NY”]
- “I couldn’t help but wonder: When will waiting for the one be done?” [Episode twelve, “One”]
Thinking about these few questions taken from the show, I have found myself asking the same exact questions… But what are the answers to these questions? Throughout the show, Carrie does find answers to these questions.
The answer I find to be the most relate-able and helpful, especially to these few questions, is this one:
I believe Carrie is right in saying this. After all, it does us no good to obsessively worry about something. And often times, I find in my own experiences that worrying too much usually only worsens the situation.
The relationship I am in right now is a perfect example of this situation.
This relationship stands alone in my book; the book of my past and present. Was it my age/experiences especially my experiences with past relationships that was making this one so good?
Passion and understanding; seems to be what we have. Our passion for each other is definitely a driving force, if not the driving force in our relationship. The understanding, on the other hand is what makes a world of a difference. Forgiving and forgetting. Admitting and trusting.
I could have let the mistakes and mishaps of my pass relationships govern this one but I was not going to. In fact I did at one point let my worries of past hurts in relationships govern my actions in this one. If not for the understanding of my significant other in this relationship it could have gone south. Also, it was my “letting go” of my worries that really freed me. After all, I can’t control the future but I can control my attitude, so I might as well just “let go” and enjoy the ride.
The ability to let go of the past is what counts. The hurt from your past will never go away, but whether you let that hurt govern your present and future decisions and actions is up to you. Time heals wounds, yes, but during the healing process it takes understanding people to help you along the way.